I am open to all the possibilities that bring me joy.
I am open to all the opportunities.
Help me see the helpers and hear the teachers fully.
I open myself up to the idea that all of my dreams are possible.
I have faith that when I am inspired by an idea, the reality of it is not far behind.
I am excited to find the breadcrumbs that will lead me on this journey.
I look for glimmers of visions around every corner.
It's already happening.
Are you a dreamer? I am a BIG dreamer, it's kind of hard for me to stop dreaming and seeing and imagining wherever I go. Sometimes I see it as a problem because I just have so many ideas and I start to think it will never be possible to make these things happen.
I think of ALL the reasons why I, specifically, will never be able to follow through. I go through all the details and highlight all the hard bits, the inadequacies I have, and the ways in which I have not had enough education or experience to be good at whatever it is that I am dreaming about.
I worry about the time and money it would take to get that training or make that happen. I think about the time away from my family and how that would disrupt the rhythm we currently have. In the short amount of time from when the dream came into my brain to the time my egoic fear squashed it to a pulp, I usually find myself exhausted. Almost like I did all that work already and it failed, and then I feel like shit honestly. And nothing actually happened. How is that possible? That's totally a rhetorical question.
If you are a dreamer in any capacity, a person with a big imagination I am going to share a few things that have really helped me manage all this extra mental load. and I hope that it's helpful to you as well.
Three main sources have really helped me. Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, The Daily Stoic Podcast, and Abraham Hicks. I'm going to tell you what I got out of them, but you should check them out yourself because we all process information differently.
These three perspectives helped me see that dreams or ideas are their own energy, bouncing around the room like a piece of dust that we see in sunlight. We can take in these jewels of creativity, or we can let them go and they'll find someone else. We don't need to hold on to them, or we can keep them for a while and let them go when they no longer feel like they belong to us. These energetic ideas are abundant and more will come to you as long as you respect them when they pop into your head to say hello. This comes mostly from Big Magic.
Next, from the Daily Stoic, is the idea that we don't need to form an opinion on everything. We can just hold information or ideas in our hand and look at it, observe it, and feel it. If you hold a tomato in your hand you can see it is red, smooth, and lightweight, but you don't actually have to say if you like the tomato or not. Just see it. Let it sit there on a proverbial shelf in your mind and eventually, you will figure out what to do with it.
Lastly, from Abraham Hicks, I have learned to keep things general. When an idea comes we don't need to see every single moving piece and how it will run from beginning to finish. That's just searching for the points where it will fail. As moms we do this a lot because we always want to be prepared, we need to have everything so no one is uncomfortable and we don't look like we are a bad mom when we forget something. We tend to play out scenarios and back up scenarios so we always have the answer. Creative ideas don't need that. We can just keep it basic. think to ourselves 'That is a fun idea, I really like when I get these ideas, where do ideas come from, I wonder what color would look best, oh wouldn't it be fun if... ' and on and on, until you get to a detail that maybe feels too real, too uncomfortable, then back off.
These concepts all work together, we aren't giving opinions, we can keep it light and fun, and we can open ourselves up to the ideas and opportunities that might help us make some of the ideas into a reality. But, if it doesn't happen, if those opportunities do not arise, we're okay with that too, we didn't invest so much, we just had fun with the ideas.
So let's keep dreaming.
